Problem drinkers commonly deny that their drinking is a problem.
Similarly, family and friends have a tendency to minimize how seriously the drinker’s behavior has affected them.
These questions can help you consider whether you could find support and understanding in an Al‑Anon Family Group.
1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
2. Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking?
4. Do you feel that if the drinker cared about you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
5. Are plans frequently upset or cancelled because of the drinker?
6. Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you”?
7. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
8. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker’s behavior?
9. Do you search for hidden alcohol?
10. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
11. Do you feel like a failure because you can’t control the drinking?
12. Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?