Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Some people worry about their alcohol use but are not convinced that they need help. Friends or relatives might express their concern--"You have a drinking problem." But often that well-intentioned statement fails to define the issue or suggest a clear solution.
Monday, December 28, 2009
Sunday, December 27, 2009
There are two theories to arguing. Neither one works…
It’s always darkest before dawn. So if you’re going to steal your neighbour’s newspaper, that’s the time to do it.
Sex is like air. It’s not important unless you aren’t getting any.
Don’t be irreplaceable. If you can’t be replaced, you can’t be promoted.
No one is listening until you fart.
Always remember you’re unique. Just like everyone else.
It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.
It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help.
If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of car repayments.
Before you criticise someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticise them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes.
If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you.
Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach him how to fish, and he will sit in a boat & drink beer all day.
If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.
If you drink, don’t park; accidents cause people.
Some days you are the bug, some days you are the windshield.
Don’t worry, it only seems kinky the first time.
Good judgment comes from bad experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment.
The quickest way to double your money is to fold it in half and put it back in your pocket.
Timing has an awful lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.
A closed mouth gathers no foot.
Duct tape is like the Force. It has a light side & a dark side, and it holds the universe together.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a broken fan belt and a leaky tire.
Generally speaking, you aren’t learning much when your mouth is moving.
Experience is something you don’t get until just after you need it.
Never miss a good chance to shut up.
We are born naked, wet, and hungry. Then things get worse.
What, no more twisted wit?
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
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Tuesday, December 15, 2009
People are living longer and are generally healthier. This means that seniors are making up a larger portion of our population. Although alcohol use typically declines with age, some seniors may be at risk for alcohol-related problems.
What Makes Alcohol an Issue for Seniors?
Alcohol has a greater effect on seniors because metabolism changes as we age. Older people are more sensitive to the effects of alcohol, and a little will go a long way. Seniors generally take more medications than other adults. Mixing alcohol with either prescription or over-the-counter drugs is unwise and can be dangerous. The development of age-related health problems can cause anxiety and drinking may help some people feel more relaxed. At the same time, chronic conditions such as heart disease or decreased mobility can be aggravated by alcohol use.
Loss of a spouse, friends, home, or career often occurs in later years. Alcohol may be used to deal with these and other emotional stresses. Retirement brings long stretches of leisure time and may result in feelings of loneliness and depression. Alcohol may assume a role in helping pass the time.
Alcohol problems among older persons are often mistaken for physical, social or emotional conditions associated with aging. The abuse or misuse of alcohol may go undetected or may be treated inappropriately.
For some seniors, lack of day-to-day contact with fellow workers, families, and neighbours can make it difficult for others to detect an alcohol problem if one exists.
Older people who have lived through many life experiences often pride themselves on being able to handle their problems without the help of outsiders. They may be unwilling to admit to a drinking problem or uncomfortable seeking help.
In general, alcohol problems among older people can be divided into three categories. Some seniors have used alcohol excessively throughout most of their lives. Others drink at low levels but are inadvertently mixing alcohol with other drugs in ways that are harmful. And some people begin to use alcohol for the first time in their later years.
Throughout our lives it makes sense to spend our time wisely and enjoy the best health possible. Seniors can choose healthier alternatives to alcohol use – exercise, a second career, hobbies, or professional counselling to help deal with grief and loneliness.
Getting to know your doctor and pharmacist is also a good idea. These health professionals will have answers about alcohol and other drug use. Young or old, it is important to ask for help when needed. Information and treatment services are available in your area.
Also contact your local Alcoholics Anonymous group – its almost always listed in the local phone book.
Anxiety is experienced by all people, it is a normal reaction to stress, conflict, fear, change, threat, & etc or more usually there is no apparent reason for it to occur. When a person becomes aware, conscious or subconscious, that something is wrong or different, anxiety is triggered. But remember the actual cause may not be identifiable by you or anyone else.
- Anxiety can be regarded as a signal that change or action is needed. It can be an energy source to find the right solution and overcome inertia and make changes.
- Anxiety can occur in different strengths. It can cause a nudge, nag, demand, panic, or a ‘kick in the backside’, a ‘knock on the door’, or a major stress in life, a ‘rock bottom’.
However anxiety reactions can have good and bad effects. It may result in action or denial.
Addicts, alcoholics and compulsive gamblers are no more anxiety ridden than other groups in the community. The difference is in the way each person deals with anxiety. Addicts, alcoholics and compulsive gamblers try to escape the discomfort, while many others try cope with their anxiety.
Drug addicts, compulsive gamblers and alcoholics often don’t recognise anxiety, label it incorrectly or deal with it in inappropriate ways. Responses to anxiety may be deliberate, unconscious, conscious, manipulating or habitual & etc. This may cause many problems.
Compulsive gambling, alcoholism and drug addiction is not caused by anxiety. Anxiety causes anxious people.
Anxiety is, in one sense, opposite to denial.
- Denial stops or prevents action by preventing awareness or putting it off till later. For example if a person does not ‘look’ at the lawn they will not know it needs mowing.
- Whereas anxiety can energise and motivate action. When a person becomes aware and accepts that the lawn needs mowing they can decide to mow it. Anxiety about the untidy lawn may have motivate them to do something about it.
When anxiety is denied the denial generates more anxiety because the ‘problem’ has not been dealt with. The person denying, may feel better but has only postponed the problem. This ‘feeling better’ gives a false and temporary impression of being OK.
Thus anxiety cannot be reduced by alcoholic drinking, addictive drug use or compulsive gambling. All of these things will only reduce the immediate uncomfortable feelings. The anxiety returns, probably more powerfully, after the addictive practice.
Too much anxiety can become toxic, poisonous or crippling. Overpowering anxiety is usually the result of not dealing with it appropriately.
The symptoms of toxic anxiety can include:-
- restlessness, being keyed up, on edge;
- a feeling of being easily tired;
- a difficulty in concentrating, mind going blank, irritability;
- sleep disturbances;
- avoiding issues, ruminating, worrying;
- ritual actions;
- craving, acting out impulses, the dry drunk syndrome;
- depression, despair;
- shame, guilt, defeat;
- too stressed out to function, immobilised.
It can also include physical symptoms like sweating, rapid heart beat, muscle tension, indigestion, rapid breathing,
Toxic anxiety tends to build up until it explodes. Exploding anxiety often happen at the wrong time, wrong place, and at the wrong people.
Anxiety generates energy to flight, fight or, focus and function. Fighting or fleeing anxiety can be the result of denial. To focus on the anxiety enables a person to function which is usually more appropriate and spiritually sound. Thus anxiety used for its intended purpose can help define any problem, push aside denial and find an appropriate way to deal with it.
Anxiety can be telegraphed to other people by the person with it, through tone of voice, body language, aggressive behaviour, silence, shouting, stares, fast driving, drinking, drugging, gambling, & etc.
Acting out the impulse of anxiety discomfort without dealing with it, can generate negativity and criticism from other people. Thus more anxiety is the result of rejection by others.
Reactions to anxiety are learned and thus can be unlearned and managed.
The paradox of anxiety is that it can be both a solution to problems and a source of anxiety.
Am I a spiritual being or a human being
Becoming a spiritual being is synonymous with becoming a miracle worker and knowing the bliss of real magic. A spiritual being has a conscious awareness of both the physical and the invisible dimension, while the non-spiritual being is only aware of the physical domain. Here are a dozen beliefs for you to cultivate in order to manifest miracles in your life.
- The non-spiritual being believes that if you cannot see, touch, smell, hear, or taste something, then it simply doesn’t exist. The spiritual being knows that beyond the physical senses, there are other senses available to us. He knows that the soul is beyond limits and defies birth and death.
- The non-spiritual being accepts the existence of a God, not as a force within us but as a separate power. The spiritual being uses his own divine guidance to become a miracle maker.
- The non-spiritual being is focused on external power. The spiritual being is focused on personal empowerment and helping others live in harmony. A mind at peace and centred, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.
- The non-spiritual being feels separated and distinct from all others, a being unto himself. The spiritual being knows that he is connected to all others. Then, the need for conflict and confrontation is eliminated.
- The non-spiritual being believes in a cause/effect interpretation of life. The spiritual being knows that there is a higher power working in the universe.
- The non-spiritual being is motivated by acquisitions. The spiritual being believes the measure of a life is in what is given to others.
- The non-spiritual being has no room for meditation. The spiritual being knows in deep meditation one can leave the body and enter a sphere of magic.
- For the non-spiritual being, the concept of intuition can be reduced to a hunch. For the spiritual being, intuition is guidance and is never taken lightly.
- The non-spiritual being knows what he hates but, in order to manifest miracles, the spiritual being works on what he is, rather than fighting what he is against. Real magic occurs when you have eliminated the hatred in your life, even the hatred that you have against hatred.
- The non-spiritual person feels no sense of responsibility to the universe. The spiritual being has a reverence for life that goes to the essence of all beings.
- The non-spiritual being is laden with grudges and the need for revenge. The spiritual being has no room for these impediments to miracle making. All religions preach forgiveness. One cannot profess to be a member of a particular faith, and then behave in ways inconsistent with its teachings.
- The non-spiritual being views miracles as random happenings but the spiritual being believes in them, and in his ability to experience a world of magic. He believes the forces that have created miracles are still present in the universe and can be tapped into.
Excerpt from Real Magic (William Morrow & Company Inc) by Dr Wayne Dyer. Dr Dyer, based in the US, has a doctorate in counselling psychology, and is a well-known speaker and author. Featured in Harmony Magazine, July 2005.
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